It's funny, I am a kind a person who can stand along will long time relationship. the greatest record shows I can hang on a guy are 6 months longest. I often get broke up and get up switch easily. Despite, I would cry all along after I got broke up, I realize that I can easily move on.
But now, the story is different. I have quite longtime relationship with a guy, things I've never done before, but now I did.
I first met him at 2010, back then we are new entered graduate student. Although we are live in the same city, I never met him before. Since we are in different school, up until we met in same university. I adore him since then, but he didn't notice, and I heard he was dating a girl too then. So, all I can do is nothing and keep going on living as a good college student. Sometimes (read: seldom), whilst I have free time, I go check on his facebook account to just discover what he is doing now. And I figured it out that he already broke up and date another girl. I just murmur 'oooh'.
But it was a fate I met him again, 4 years later in an occasion, that, maybe, accidentally created to make me met him. I remember, it was the time when I struggling to do experiment for my bachelor thesis. I don't have any feeling to him, for me it is like met old friend. Moreover much rumor said he such a playboy guy and many friends remind me about that. After all, not a long time ago he just broke up. So, maybe its safe for me to stay far away from him.
After that meeting, he start to approached me. He ask me to go to either dinner or go to cinema with him but I always refused. He such a stubborn guy, and I have to give applause for persistence and not easily to give up though I eschew many times.
One night when he ask me to go to cinema, as usual, I refused. But he kept asking until finally I said 'yes'. At that time I feel sorry to him because I always refuse when he invite me to go.
Long story short, we are dating, until now. Many twist and turn in our. Even now we did long distance relationship.
When I think I can believe him, I start to share my private living more. Recently I just notice that we have very different personality. I meant that, I am an A blood person, for the truth. If you guys read about A blood type personality, they are mostly matched with my personality, a person who desire stability in their life, a good planner, and so on. Moreover, I am also an introvert person that usually spend leisure time stay at home, either for cleaning home, reading old book, or just watching Conan. Whilst, he is a B blood personality person. I must say, exactly B blood type personality you read, you can found it in him. I realize tpo that he is an adventurous guy, plus an extrovert guy who always ask me to go somewhere like explore new place we haven't visited before. For me, who desire lazy time in home I refuse hahaha, and sometimes we have a little fight because of that. It was just one of dissimilarity personality of us. But, the fact is, up until now I still into him. How come? Can you guess?
I just feel happy near by him. Though I admit that the way we show love is very different. I, the person who toneless express the feeling but should always be, while the way he shows the feeling is unexpected, accidentally, and yes maybe only him can do that thing. I remember, when he pick me up after I have had job interview, he carry me to buy food I like the most, and, after he returned me to house, I waved to him as a 'good-bye' sign. Unexpectedly, he come with a fresh white rose from his back. Wow (like in the movie you know) Maybe, my cheek are blushing back then hahaha.
So, back to the question, why until now we can stand with our difference?
If, someone questioning that on me, perhaps I will say 'because inside him are match with inside me'. No matter how big the difference, since the important thing we can complete each other. I am not allow myself to change anyone, including myself. If some different opinion, we can adjust, not change our partner, nor ourselves. So, here we are. I just work with him. And, what things I learned from him is that I can be a better person. Moreover, the best one from him is, he easily cheers me up whenever I got sad, or tired.
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Sometimes, I think what will might happen if I found someone who has many similarity with me? Same hobby, same personality, so I like finding some like, me. Could I be more happy? Maybe yes. But maybe no. Finding someone who has similarity with us, doesn't meant it will make us happier, instead lead us recognize how awful our personality are.
Yesterday was our 16 months journey.
I personally hope for lasting together, getting old together, struggling the world together.
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Don't list yourself with qualities you want in your partner. If you fit with someone, maintain that relationship. If no, maybe you two just doesn't fit each other.
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